how do you actually want to live?
right now, you’re in the “building” phase of your life.
levelling up the money, health, knowledge, etc.
you didn’t experience life yet.
you need money first.
you need health, attractiveness, confidence first.
you need balls, game, contacts, knowledge and friends first.
then, you’ll actually start “living” your life.
I don’t mean that your life right now isn’t like “living” — but sometimes it feels like it isn’t.
when you’re only silently grinding, with no distractions at all…
you kind of disconnect with the external world, it’s a weird feeling.
you feel as if you’re replaying the memories, because your identity has already changed to a man who already has all the things you’re working for.
you don’t feel like you belong to this life, it just feels wrong.
now let me ask you a question…
how would the version of you who earns these first a couple of $K a month act?
you know the answer.
elite/unshakable mindset.
working every day.
no bad habits.
so let me ask you right now…
what makes you different from this version of you?
probably still quite a lot, but that can be changed in the next couple of months, if you dedicate yourself to the grind.
really, what stops you from becoming it?
nothing.
you can create excuses and explain me all those “pendulums” and shit, but I don’t fucking care.
you’re the only one who can change your life, nothing is stopping you.
because when you think about it…
what are the chances of you acting on your true 100% right now?
no bad habits, no distractions, working all day, keeping your body in the best possible shape.
peak diet, active lifestyle, and growing a business.
what is stopping you?
only your mind.
if I asked you “could you reach $10k/month from scratch till the end of this year?”
you would say that you couldn’t.
but let’s turn it around…
if you fail, your whole family dies, and you will be tortured by watching them all die from a painful, long death.
could you achieve it now?
“yes yes yes I will pleas-!”
great.
what changed?
the goal didn’t change, the deadline didn’t change, the reason you’re doing this has changed.
the “why?” behind your actions is what really counts.
so… coming back to the first question…
how do you actually want to live?
the better you answer this question… the greater the vision you’ll create… that you actually WANT to live…
the bigger the “why?” behind your actions will be. And that is the sole reason you’ll become successful…
you’ll know that all this struggle with eventually lead to living YOUR dream life, and that you will be thanking your younger self for not giving up, who is your current self.
I’ll tell you a recent story…
from the very beginning, all I wanted was to retire my mom.
make her able to rest, to stop the stress from the deteriorating work she hates.
this is still the number 1 reason I keep on going… I won’t let her suffer any longer.
but I found out that the more “why?” behind your actions you have, the higher the chances you will keep on going on your true 100%, embracing all the pain and discomfort.
even if the biggest “why?” behind my action is very strong… the brain doesn’t give a fuck.
your brain is the biggest pussy you’ll ever know, wanting to do nothing but keep you safe, far from potential danger (discomfort), and keep on chasing comfort.
but what if you give him SO MANY reasons to keep going throughout the pain?
then he will have no choice but to keep going.
because the pain of inaction is greater than the pain of action.
so… let’s defeat your brain, by making this a reality.
your number 1 reason for the grind? retiring your mother.
your number 2? 3? 4? 5?
as soon as he sees that your mom isn’t suffering…
then he will stop you from working.
he doesn’t realise that a couple of days off work isn’t a solved problem.
he only thinks in the current moment, but what really matters is the long term.
so we need to rewire his way of thinking, so he will NEVER be able to stop working…
how do we do that?
coming back to the question once again, because you know the bigger picture right now :
how do you actually want to live?
your number 1 reason that keeps you going is retiring your mother.
what can be the number 2?
The life you want to live. The life you’ll be able to provide for your future wife and kids. The freedom and fulfilment you’ll experience daily. The early mornings that don’t feel bad anymore, but are incredibly well and beautiful. The late night without any grain of doubt, because you don’t have work tomorrow, you don’t need an alarm, you’re full of peace.
Doesn’t this sound beautiful?
if I made you feel good right now, it means you’ve visualised something you want.
you should look for things you REALLY want, and just write them down.
number 1, 2, 3, 4… and so on. The more the better.
list so many things you want that your brain will have NO CHOICE but the keep going, because the pain of missing out on those things that ARE GUARANTEED to obtain if you don’t quit will be too much for him to bear, he will choose the smaller pain 10/10 times.
that’s why you should have a strong why behind your actions, but even a stronger list of them.
I want to retire my mom, but I also want peace. I want power. I want freedom.
I’m aware of all the things that are guaranteed to happen if I don’t quit, so my brain works on my side.
the thoughts about progress alone make me excited, that’s something you need to find.
the school ends very soon, which means there are almost 3 months of free time…
3 months to max out your stats in life as much as you can, beautiful.
I’m basically building an empire of knowledge, gaining financial freedom while doing so.
levelling up in terms of football, strength, looks, attractiveness, game.
becoming better and better day by day.
getting ahead of everyone every day.
this alone makes me excited.
you can get financially independent from any business, that’s right.
but can any other business give you that sort of freedom?
you wake up when you want.
you go to sleep when you want.
you literally do what you want.
everything is designed for what you want.
this is making the “list” incredibly big, because you’re not limited by circumstances that would have normally stopped you.
you can live like a playboy.
but you can also lock yourself in a room and just work, while being a literal ghost for everyone around you.
there’s no “the right path” you need to choose.
you’re the right path, and you keep on changing it when you want, because who is stopping you?
if I wanted to, I could schedule posts for another couple of months and completely vanish from the internet.
people would still think I’m there, but I’m not.
I don’t plan on doing something like this, but I could.
that’s the best possible thing you can have, freedom to do what the fuck you want.
and that is the reason you will never give up on the grind, this is the thing that makes the “list” very powerful.
you can just keep on giving yourself more reasons why you want to keep on grinding, and you’ll be so excited to experience that life that you’ll be doing nothing but work.
that’s something that happened to me recently.
I’ve realised how fun life can get, if you live it on your own terms.
but to get there?
you need to put in the work first.
reread this until this sinks in.
koldan9.
P.S. this is one of the mindset mastery modules that are in the growth system.
if you want to access 24 more of them… (and the business model I was talking about in the post)
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love, koldan9.